Jorge Bucay- An Interview translation (partly) and 'Count on me' quotes

Hallelujah by Misty on deviantart

I want you to listen to me without judging me
I want your opinion without advice
I want you to trust me without requirements
I want your help, not to decide for me
I want you to take care of me without invalidating me
I want you to look without projecting yourself onto me
I want you to embrace me without making me choke
I want you to give me vitality without pushing me
I want to be supported by you, not to become a burden to you
I want you to protect me without lies
I want you to be close without invading
I want you to be aware of my sides that are the most disturbing to you, to accept them and to not try to change them...
I want you to know.. that today you can depend on me... unconditionally

 
Jorge Bucay was on this blog earlier and I think that he'll continue to make appearances, because he is a very competent story-teller and a phychotherapist that can talk simple words and still be a professional or a scientist if you want. Some of his stories helped me immediately with problems 'on the agenda' or ones occuring suddenly. I think this tells something. And today this post about him is also a way of giving an answer to a person very dear to me :)

So, I'll begin with a translation of a small part of an interview I found in greek and I'll proceed with a summary and some very important stories from his book 'Count on me'.

Loving Oneself With Open Eyes by Jorge Bucay and Silvia Salinas

Amor Liberate by kuscherlirmer on deviantart

Love can liberate, but not until we're willing to expose our flaws to others, admit that what annoys us in others is 99% part of ourselves and work it out. After all, as Hugh Prater said:

A stone is never annoying, unless it's in your way

In this wonderful book with the veil of a novel, one discovers the truths behind the success and the fail of some relationships. We are urged to tend carefully to our partners and subsequently to ourselves. We learn of the nature of love and all these in an understandable way.

Eros is to love the similarities, and love, to fall in love with the differences.

 (Translation from Greek version)

The universal patient : Schooling

Blowing Bubbles by AquaSixio on deviantart

A professor is someone who talks in someone else's sleep. ~W.H. Auden

I believe you have NEVER EVER seen a student fall asleep in the classroom, because teachers are educated and trained individuals who really love their job and know how to make the lesson interesting... Aside from joking, what I saw in my visit at schools in the (greek) classrooms during my training last week (A' phase training where we watch teaching and write down our impressions and try to learn how to make a lesson plan) was frustrating for many reasons. Not because I didn't know that schooling hasn't changed basically much since last century, although there are so many new teaching methods out there, but because I realised that teachers as human beings with feelings and thoughts haven't changed and because it dawned on me how much we idealize our own teachers from our childhood...

So, on this post I'm going to talk about

• my one-week experience in schools, my feelings and thoughts on it,
• the difference between schooling and education
• what education should be. what education is and how it can be changed (content, goals, methods)
• and of course about teachers, students and parents, since they are the ones mainly involved, even though there are 'outside restrictions' -don't forget that education in schools is an institution designed by a state and confined by laws and politics.

Naturally, some people know better than me, so I'll let them speak in my place through quotes and videos.

'I can' bug- children as the future (hope)

If someone isn't given love, then (s)he can't give it. If we don't empower our children, trust them, support them into taking risks and chances, how will they change the world?

After the link follow two inspiring TED  talks, that focus on what can children do, if we believe in them.

Oh tempora, oh mora ! (or not?) - When the generation gap shows its ugliness

Oh boy, how difficult it can be for your parents to understand you? I'll answer: VERY VERY MUCH (especially if your age difference is over 30 years...) If clothes represent personalities and mentalities, then just seeing the picture below, speaks volumes...

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

"Desiderata" (Latin for "desired things", plural of desideratum) is an inspirational prose poem about attaining happiness in life. See video and listen to audio after the jump.